DNA Lady
As if we are not all bombarded on a daily basis with fears, uncertainties and problems in life - let's highlight one more for all the ladies (and men) to think about as we slowly ease into the holiday season. Please, I need to get passed Halloween and Thanksgiving before I can get into "holiday" mode.
However, in times of stress, and that is eustress and distress, infidelity cases increase - not necessarily a by-product of a marriage or a cohabitation relationship but more a by-product of financial problems, extra time on your hands, unresolved emotional issues, availability and access to anonymous sex through social media sites (thoughts about the Craig's List Killer should eliminate some activity) and don't forget facebook - how many quick hookups have taken place by "friending" someone from 20 years ago and then remembering the reasons why you didn't stay friends in the first place! And of course, once a cheater always a cheater. People rarely change their stripes - perhaps control for a short while as they mature - but without a profound life-change event - if you cheated in your 20s you are bound to cheat in your 30s, 40s, 50s.... Ladies, you just can't fix everyman that walks into your life- some are only meant for fun - others are meant for life.
I don't believe for one minute that Ashton cheated on Demi - it was a cheap publicity stunt - probably set up with the extras from the set of the show that aired October 18th. It all seems too coincidental. Without ever having met Ashton, he seems to be closer to the character he now plays on 2 1/2 Men, then to someone who cheats on his wife in a very public venue.
Just as a reminder, if you think you partner is cheating here are some tips to follow:
1.) hushed phone calls or a quick I'll call you back when there is no reason why he/she can't have a conversation right there in front of you
2.) missing time - I'm going to the store for milk and then showing up 8 hours later without the milk?
3.) check cellphone records, deleted messages, email accounts, facebook status, does he close the screen quickly as you walk in the room?
4.) old stand bys - is he/she coming home smelling freshly showered and shaved and primped - why? check out his/her clothing - are there any unusual smells or stains? Put the garment in a paperbag and bring it to the DNA Lady to determine the presence of male DNA (not yours) or female DNA (not yours) - or simply determine if the stain is semen - which you know should not be there?
5.) mileage on his car - if he/she only drives 5 miles to work everyday but comes home with an extra 40 miles on his/her car - where did he/she go that day? Ask before you mention the difference in mileage.
6.) are there charges on his/her credit card for items for the opposite sex - like perfume or cologne - or jewelry or clothing that you didn't receive?
Unfortunately, once you get that doubt in your mind, or mistrust about your partner - it is often hard to remove it without some kind of concrete information. Even then, when clients receive information it is often hard for them to accept. Always know your next step, if you are going to push for DNA Testing to confirm an infidelity. There are usually more than two people involved - you might have children to think about, in-laws, siblings -not to mention the "other women" or "other men" involved in this situation.
